I'm pretty sure I said it before and I'm saying it again. Sure, timing relates, but if I want to have sex, I just have to be the instigator and the agressor. This morning when we woke up (after having an odd dream about being away for a weekend and having a sex dream as a prelude to sex) I gave my guy a full body massage, stripping and licking him along the way. After a while we were BOTH ready and it was yummy.
Here's the thing - it gets me JUST as hot to do those things to him, turning him on as it does for him to do those things to me. But, I WANT him to do those things to me. But, I want to have sex. I have the power to have sex and to get HOT, I just have to be the one doing the work. So, I guess the question is why do I want to resist doing the work on principle when the outcome really is the same AND what I want!?! Giving him a blow job makes ME wet! So, whats my problem? Quit my bitching, do some work, get really turned on, and get off. Prolem solved, right?
I'm going to try this. I do have to admit that this plan may work better for women wanting sex than for men wanting sex. I'm going to try it and see if my sex life improves. If it does and we're having fun, then the next step would then be to nudge him into taking a starring role once in a while. I'll keep you posted, as usual.